Why hire a wedding professional?

This is the time of year where couples start the planning process for their weddings.  November to February is the biggest time for engagements which follows right along with the planning season.  As a former groom (my wedding was this past October and I’ll talk about that process in a later blog), I know first hand what all goes into the planning process.  There are a lot of decisions to be made and it seems that every time you turn around, there is another choice to be made.  The venue, the food, the flowers, the photographer and the favors are just a few.  So how do you go about choosing a wedding professional and why choose one at all?

I’m sure you’ve all seen the stories in the news about how event professionals automatically bump up the price the second you say the word “wedding”.   Many news outlets have decided to go on a rant about how they do undercover reporting to prove that event professionals jack up the price just because the word “wedding” in the title.  The fact of the matter is, weddings are a completely different animal then any other event you will ever attend.  Thus, the need for professionals.  But why?

A wedding, in most cases, is a once in a lifetime event for most couples.  In theory, you should only get married once, right?  With that thinking, you can’t really compare a wedding to a birthday party.  Everyone has a birthday every year, but we don’t throw a party for it every year, only the big ones, like those ending in “0”.  For those events, it’s fine to hire your uncle or cousin to work the event.  It’s a birthday, but it’s not that huge an event as you may plan for a week or two for that event.  But a wedding.

Let’s compare a wedding to a birthday party and see why a wedding professional is so important to your day;  At a birthday you invite close friends and family to a nice venue, maybe your house.  Serve them some cake, maybe some finger foods and play a little music in the background.  After about an hour or two, everyone leaves and thanks for a nice evening.  Not much to mess up there, right?  I mean if you play music off your iPod and mess it up, who cares?  Everyone has a phone with a camera and they are all taking pictures, that’s perfect.  You may look back on those pictures in a few years and say, “what fun that was.”.  But if no one took a single picture, would you be upset?  Most likely not.  And at most your may have put out a couple of hundred dollars for the day.  Not to mention the couple of days it took you to plan the event.

Now, let’s look at the wedding:  Most girls have been thinking of their wedding for years.  Some since they were little girls.  Most plan for months, some even for years.  Brides worry and fret over every single detail of the day.  Everything from the look of the dress, the color of the tux’s on the groomsmen, right down to the length of the table linens.   It’s a memorable day, where a couple start a new chapter in their lives, new beginnings.  It’s also the only time you have both sides of the family in one place, at the same time all in a good mood.  In some cases, it may be the last time some family members will be around at all.

It’s a day that most couples will look back on every year on their anniversary as they remember the beauty, the love and the friendship of all those who came to celebrate their day.  If the photos get messed up, it is a big deal.  If the music is wrong, the food is not right or even if it rains, all that will be remembered for years to come.  So, do you want to trust your wedding day, the day full of memories, to just anyone?  Of course not.  You want someone who knows what they are doing to be a part of your day.

If you were thrown in jail today for something you didn’t do, would you go to Craigslist to find an attorney?  How about a doctor to do surgery on your heart?  Would you let your cousin do open heart surgery on you if all he’s ever done is watch medical shows?  Of course not, yet so many so called “experts” tell brides that if they want to save money to do just that.  Find someone on Craigslist who is just staring out and let them shoot your wedding for cheap.  If you’ve got a good playlist on your iPod, use that and save the money on a DJ.  Have the ladies of the church or family member make the food for your wedding day.  Nice ideas, but all have failed in the past.  I know because I’ve seen it.  It’s like that commercial for “Farmer’s Insurance”.  “We know a thing or two because we’ve seen a thing or two.”.

I’ve worked weddings where they used Spotify for the music.  The wifi was spotty and the music was not good as it would jump from song to song without any pattern.  I’ve seen cousin Amy do the photography at the wedding where she used one hand to shoot pictures and the other to eat a Popsicle because she was hot.  I’ve seen Aunt Polly try to be the wedding coordinator but do it from the chair she was on because she was talking to her second cousin she hadn’t seen in years and the couple missed their first dance because no one told them the DJ was playing their song.

Look, I can go on for pages, but the fact of the matter is you want to have a professional work your wedding.  Not because we are expensive or because I’m in the business but because you want to have a day you will remember for all the good things and not the bad thing that will happen.  And they will.  Invite your friends and family to be guest, not to work your wedding.  Let them enjoy the time there with everyone and hire the people who know how to handle anything that can come along.

In my next blog I will talk about how to find the right vendor, what to ask and how to choose between them.

 

 

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Do Brides Watch Their Wedding Films?

When I meet with brides who are wanting to inquire about a wedding film, one of the most common comments I hear is “I don’t think I would ever watch the wedding video more then once or twice.  Why would I want to spend the money on a video that I’m only going to watch once?”  In all honesty, I thought the same thing more then 25 years ago when I first got married.  I thought who in the world would want to have their wedding day on video or film.  I thought like most others, that photos would be more then enough.  That was 25 years ago.  So what changed for me?

At the wedding of my first wife, we had a photographer who was a “friend or a friend”.  I never met him or talked to him before the wedding.  He took a lot of photos that day and was a very nice guy from what I can remember of him from 25 years ago.  After the wedding, we never heard from him or saw him again.  The only photos from that day was the ones taken by family members and they were not very good.  But, an uncle of my then wife set up a video camera and videoed our wedding.  I didn’t like the idea at the time, but it is now one of my most treasured items from my first wife.  You see, my first wife died 3 years ago.

One of the many reasons why I love what I do, capturing weddings of couples every weekend, so that they can have something they can go back and look at over time.  But in reality, how often to they really watch their wedding film if ever?   I can’t really tell you that they watch it “X” number of times each year.  That would be easy.   I can tell you that most will watch it again on the wedding anniversary each year.  It’s a great way to feel like you’ve gotten married all over again each year.

That’s not always the case.  Every now and then I get a message from a former bride and groom who tell me that they just watched their wedding and how much they enjoyed doing so again.  Today was one of those out of the box cases.  One of those times when I hear from a former bride and it makes me feel good about what I do and the gift I give to each couple.

 

Kristy Royer was a bride of mine back in August of 2015.  Shortly after her wedding, she and her groom moved to SC for his job.  This morning she posted on her Facebook page about watching her wedding film last night, here is the post:

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In several comments she talks about the toast a bridesmaid did, how funny it was and how special it was for her.   She had a great day at work and was sore from a workout she had that day, but this is what made her day even better.  She just decided to sit down and watch her wedding film all over again.  I asked her why, she told me she does so several times a year, just to laugh and feel good about her relationship and to remember what an amazing and beautiful day she had.

 

Do you want to remember what a beautiful and amazing wedding day you had?  Don’t you want to see your wedding as your guest saw it?  Be that fly on the wall as you see all your planning and work unfold into your dream wedding day?  Of course you do.  Midnight Magic Studios can capture your day with full motion and sound.  Here is a trailer for Kristy’s wedding day.  Contact us today to schedule your wedding day.